I actually liked the movie Eat Pray Love. Even more than I liked the book! I don’t know one person who fully enjoyed that movie, which makes me think that I have very bad taste. But I think I liked it because Liz (the main character) overthinks things so much it becomes annoying to most normal people, which is exactly what I do (but not usually out loud or in a bestselling memoir). She’s also extremely melodramatic, which is the setting to most of my overthinking.
And, because this year I became a romantic, I love that her story ended in her finding love. (That being said, I am not a fan of how her story started… at all.)
My favorite quote of the movie? “Sometimes, to lose balance for love is part of living balanced life.” (The toothless medicine man in Bali says it, that’s why it’s not grammatically perfect.) Liz struggles so much with attaining and maintaining her balanced self that when she is presented with the opportunity for love, she is afraid of losing or changing her balance. I’ve probably been learning about balance my whole life (who isn’t constantly learning that extremes are unhealthy? Human nature, I believe), but I’ve been particularly focused on it since Dayne & I started falling for each other. In the beginning, I fought against all the changes that were happening; all of a sudden I had a new full-time occupation – my relationship – and I had no time for it! So some things had to go. But I didn’t want to lessen those things. So I just ended up exhausted all the time. Eventually I learned that loving someone means making some sacrifices. It is impossible to live the single life when you’re with someone. You have to take that person into account.
It is not easy and it is not pretty. But is it worth it? I believe so. Some of the risks you take in letting things go are scary — what if the relationship doesn’t work out? What if I lose this aspect of my life permanently? What if…? But there is something to be learned from letting yourself go – and finding a new balance.